Two of a Kind: Womb Buddies for Life!

Today is a special day—it’s our birthday! Not just mine, but ours—because I get to share this day with my first-ever roommate, my partner in crime, my built-in best friend… my womb buddy.

Growing up, we shared everything: a room, clothes, secrets, and even a birthday cake (although I’m pretty sure I always got the bigger slice). And while life has taken us on different paths, one thing has never changed: our unshakable bond.

Previous birthday double date with our guys.

Of course, no sisterhood is without its fair share of drama. Case in point: I forgot to invite her to my 4-year-old’s birthday party this year. Yep, you read that right. I can hear her voice now: “Don’t worry about me. I’m just your womb buddy who doesn’t need an invitation.” And you know what? She won’t let me live that down—and honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

That’s the beauty of our relationship. We tease, bicker, and laugh until we cry, but at the end of the day, we always have each other’s backs. She’s the first person I call when I need advice, a good laugh, or someone to tell me I’m being ridiculous (in the kindest way possible).

We aren't together this year, and in some ways, that's hard. If you're not a twin, I won't be able to explain it in a way that you can understand. If you are, you get it. As a twin, I'm never really alone. She's always there, just a phone call away. So anytime I celebrate my birthday without her, I feel like my left arm is missing, or my right arm, I can't remember.

I'm grateful this year because we both have fantastic reasons to be apart on birthdays. We have amazing people in our lives pulling us in different directions, but we are right where we are supposed to be. She has someone new in her life and has found a part of herself that she almost forgot was there. She recognized that asking for help is not always a weakness and can be one step toward becoming the person she is supposed to be.

When we last talked, she was excited about 2025 and her forty-first year. She wants to try new things (disc golf) and revisit old hobbies (crafts and writing). She wants to grow professionally and challenge herself to be the best she can in all she does, including her health journey. I'm her biggest cheerleader, and she is mine. We are constantly pulling for one another.

Sometimes, when people find themselves, we can feel like our relationship has taken a backseat. And it may have been simply because they are working on the one more important relationship than ours, the one within. Cheering for people can be challenging and uncomfortable when we don't hold a seat in the front row. However, the second row is just as important because we must be right there for them, encouraging their growth when they come out. And that is where I sit, watching and growing with her.

I've got my growth to do this year. I have my challenges and goals that I want to achieve. This takes me back to our first days, sister, when we fought our way into this world. You were right there with me. I may have impatiently made you come with me, but we are showing up and thriving. Sorry, not sorry.

So, here’s to us, womb buddy. For every ridiculous argument, every hilarious memory, and every moment we’ve had each other’s backs and the fight we have in us to move forward into the unknown. I’m so grateful to share my birthday with you—and I promise I’ll never forget to invite you to anything again (probably).

Happy birthday to us. I love you more than words can say!

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